So how to actually get laid? Getting laid can be easy and difficult at the same time. It is easy for some and not too easy for some. Why? Well for simple reasons that some men become a master at the art of getting laid and know how to sweet talk a woman in to bed. So what does it actually take to get laid? Read on to discover some of the most shocking facts on how to get laid and achieve mind blowing results.
You don’t want it- The best way to getting laid is to pretend as if you don’t want to get laid. Yes this is the big secret right in front of your eyes. What’s a woman’s worst fear? Well a date with a guy who is a pervert. Yes that’s what women normally fear. They don’t want men who want sex rather they are in the lookout for men who want romance. Do not talk about sex at all and you would automatically see the woman you are dating spark that topic herself.
Get her comfortable- Another reason why most men never get laid is that they tend to initiate the sex conversation too early even before a woman feels completely comfortable in their company. Remember the very first thing you need to do in order to get laid to break all the mental walls that women form as a shield against perverted men. You need to get her to open up more to you and make her feel comfortable in your company. Women would only get into bed with you when they feel comfortable around you. No woman ever gets into bed with a guy whom they fear.
Let her touch you- Do not touch her unless she is ready to be touched. It’s as simple as that. You don’t want to do something she does not want you to do as that would completely spoil your chances of getting laid. If she does not make the first move than she would give you a very strong signal that she wants you to make the move.
What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women?
Getting Laid Is Becoming Easier Than Before
Few days ago, I came across a few questions on a sex forum. The questions are as follows:
1. The problem I am having is sometimes I can go for hours and sometimes as soon as I put it in I feel like I have to come. Before having sex, I sometimes worry about getting hard and being able to go long enough to make her happy. What can I do?
2. How do you please a girl when you are below average?
3. Why my girl asks me to stop when she is going crazy? I want to know if I am doing something wrong. I believe she gets uncomfortable about herself getting high. What can you tell me about that?
4. When we have sex, she comes in the first couple of minutes and then after that she can’t come again. So I was wondering is it me or her?
The 1st two questions are more about guys’ sexual confidence issues. The 3rd question is more to do with trying to win the girl’s sexual trust in the guy so she can completely surrender herself to him. The 4th question is more about the need for the guy to improve on his emotional intimacy skills rather than his sexual skills. The big problem about this guy is he is looking for someone to blame instead of trying to work together with his partner to come up with solutions. So, I am going to share with you here some ideas on how to boost your sexual confidence as well as gaining her sexual trust and improving on your emotional intimacy skills.
5 ways to boost your sexual confidence
1. You have to slowdown
Yes, you have to delay your gratification. Only 20% of women achieve orgasm during penetration. They prefer their partners to slow down and use their hands and mouth more. Only half of them can reach orgasm when sex last for 10 minutes or less, according to a 2009 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Taking your own sweet time for sex allows you to build up the sexual tension and makes her want you more. The teasing and anticipation act as amplifiers to her arousal. You are more likely to turn her on if you are cool and calm.
2. Treat sex as normal as drinking a glass of water
Many guys get tense up when coming to sex, believing they need to act differently when the time comes. Instead you should treat sex as normal as possible. Focus on enjoying the moment when you are with her, keep teasing, slowly and steadily act according to her signals she sends to you, put more time and effort on the particular erotic spot she is extra sensitive to your stimulation and the appropriate amount of pressure on the hot spot she reacts strongly to, are great ways in how you should behave in bed.
3. Stop treating sex as the main goal
Instead you should look upon sex as one of the many goals in your life. Treat sex as a natural outcome of you falling in love with a woman and wanting to spend more time with her. You treat sex as one of the many things you love to do with her. This will help you to have a relaxed attitude so that when the moment arrives you will be able to enjoy it with confidence.
4. Talk to her
Get to know your sexual tastes and desires and communicate these to your partner regularly. In doing so, you will gradually be more comfortable with yourself and this will help you to gain confidence over time when discussing sex matters with her. This should be a 2-way traffic because this is not solely your problem or her problem when certain issues surface.
5. Recognize that sex is never perfect
While it is ideal to get her experience orgasm every time you have sex with her, however, orgasm should not be the only goal. A 2008 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that stress over sexual performance significantly lowers female arousal.
Stop pestering her with questions like,” Are you close?” or “Did you come?” This puts unnecessary pressure on her. Instead ask questions like,” Do you like that?” and “Should I keep doing that?” Rather than holding out for half an hour waiting for her to reach orgasm, sometimes it is better to get over with it. Women do not have orgasm all the time and they know it is not necessary their partners’ fault. After you have ejaculated, you can always use your hands and mouth to please her, if she is still turned on.
How to win her sexual trust?
One of the powerful ways to get her “let down her fences” is to completely eliminate any hints of your own sexual shyness. This includes anything you do that let her feel you are not 100% comfortable and in control of the situation. Nervous laughter, any kind of defensive or angry remarks towards her if anything goes not according to your expectation, any feelings of frustration, trying to make yourself look “cool” or say something to brag, etc., are the things that turn her off because it shows you are insecure.
The safest and most effective way to win her sexual trust is to be unpretentious and show your real passion.
3 ways to win her sexual trust
1. Make her feel good about herself
Compliment her for her accomplishments. Ask her opinion, not her advice. If you ask for her advice, she is going to feel maternal, which is not sexy. Use words like “opinion”, “feel” and “think”. Ask in a way like,” What do you think I should do?” is better than “Tell me what to do.” This shows that you value her opinions and reinforces her confidence in your relationship with her.
2. Touch her non-sexually
According to a study in the American Journal of Family Therapy, women are more satisfied with their relationships when their partners are physically affectionate in a non-erotic manner. This kind of physical affection makes a woman feel wanted for more than just her body which ironically makes her feel sexy as well as winning her sexual trust because it makes her feel good about herself.
3. Show appreciation
This can be done by doing the little things for her as well as the big things. Be diligent in thanking her for her company, ideas and contributions to the relationship. Every woman wants to feel appreciated and wants to hear it verbally from time to time.
This is not the same as sexual intimacy. The aim of emotional intimacy is to know each other better. Emotional intimacy is the ability to accept each other for who you are, not what you can become. It is the ability to feel comfortable with each other to the point that you do not fear judgment.
4 ways to develop emotional intimacy
1. Become familiar with your own feelings
You need to be more aware of your true self. It is through quiet time that you will understand yourself better. One of the ways is to write diary because this can help to understand your real feelings.
2. Spend time together
This can be setting aside time to talk about how the day goes and how you are feeling. Part of the time together can be spent in silence. It is important that this time is spent together every day regardless of busy schedules.
3. Listen to each other
Men need to understand that women sometimes need to vent their emotions. They do not need you to fix their problems; they just want you to listen and show that you care. This also applies the other way. Men also need their women to listen to them as well as the desire to feel needed and respected.
4. Resolve the problems
If there are issues cropping up in the relationship, do not avoid them or hold grudges. This can tear the relationship apart. Go for counseling if the problems are such that you are unsure you can handle the issues amicably with her without spoiling the relationship.
Meeting For Sex In Your Local Area – Choose Your Fantasy
Now men have an ally in their search to meet probably millions of single ladies. Not merely through the internet but the social networking sites that are all over the online world. Sites like MySpace and Twitter are full of activities and consistently expanding. These sites are totally free to use and most women have friends online so they always keep in contact with their friends this way. Many girls that are busy with work or school will look to these sites to arrange their social live and even sometimes meet guys. Seeing that many girls use this social networking as a main part of their social lives, this is where you come in. The idea being that you come along with an interesting profile and email that captivates her interest.
Most people don’t look at MySpace or Twitter as place to go and try to connect with a potential date. That has its good and bad points, but you do have the chance to meet a girl who is single and available. From her profile, you can read what she is about and see if you are interested before you make contact. This is an advantage you don’t have in a bar or other social settings. When you make contact with a girl many will not assume your attempting to get a date, but just making an attempt to say hello. Probably that is the case, but you have the chance to meet more girls and introduce yourself. More introductions suggest more potential relationships to be developed. This is more effective than working with dating sites for both men and women as the dating sites are full of guys just seeking to hook up with girls. The women are usually flooded with one liner pickup lines and guys that don’t appear very genuine.
Meeting a girl on a social networking site can always be exciting and straightforward. However if you are intending to attempt to approach things for a relationship, the first thing I want to point out is to search for people who are near you physically! It is simple and easy to meet a girl given the dynamics of the internet and then you may well find that she lives on another continent. If this is what you really want then its great but it will makes things significantly more complicated.
Meeting on a social networking site necessitates much more patience. Most of the girls on these sites won’t be expecting to meet a guy and they may not be always thinking that way anytime a guy introduces himself. You will have to spend time talking with her as a friend and establish things up more slowly before you make the move by asking her out for meal or coffee.